The essentials of rape culture

Rape culture is essentially a failure to acknowledge the human aspect of others, and curiously, it frequently happens to women. It discourages to realize that women are active beings with complex lives, they do have intentions, plans, attitudes, and they can make decisions for themselves. It cannot go beyond the stage where people take women as objects to look at, like or dislike, comment on, play or satisfy their needs with; and whatever is done to women will stick to the air, because there is no likelihood that women will live with the consequences of those doings.
What rape culture suggests is that sexual assault is something deserved, demanded, or within the power of all of the parties involved. It denies that women do not bear any responsibility in others disturbing them in any manner. It is often forgotten that assault is not something to ask for, if it was, it would not be disturbing. When an action is defined as rape, for example, it means that one of the parties did not consent it, for otherwise it would be called sex.
When it comes to the argument where perpetrators think that they could not hold themselves from doing it, we should remind these people that sex, if that is what they want, is for adults, who are well able to regulate their actions. Whereas rape is forcefully perpetrated to a living being, and this force emerges from the very first premise that that being did not request such an action against themselves. Another point to be mindful of is that request is not a complete opposite of rejection, it is not only saying no, or screaming, but it also subsumes reluctant behaviors, freezing, and crying. Moreover, one does not request sexual action by dressing for themselves, acting for themselves, or sleeping for themselves. This is unfortunately a common erroneous concept, though.
Thinking that women’s behaviors are the object of others’ gaze, admire, and words is the schema of the rape culture. They are not, on the contrary, they are the very ordinary things people do for themselves, and within the extent, which is set by the person themselves, one allows it. Therefore let’s stop thinking that a random person sitting next to you, walking down the street, dancing alone or with friends will mean that they are living for you. People are not the objects of other people’s entertainment, therefore, them having desires does not make them entitled to force others to fulfill those goals.


-Ege

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